| Gabriel Olatunji
Over the years I have seen ‘not so beautiful’ (those you would call, ugly) girls feel sad about their body, face, looks and everything about them, wondering why they don’t have the kind of beauty Beyonce has or better still the kind of beauty my girlfriend has, lol (that was on a lighter mood). I have also seen the beautiful ones wonder why they attract so much attention, not sure of who love them for them or for their looks, confused about who to marry or petty stuff all because they have unconsciously worship their looks so much so that they pay attention to their looks than why they look that way.
Depression and low self esteem is usually synonymous with girls or boys who have been called ‘ugly’ but I beg to defer, you can be handsome, beautiful and have a heavy dose of low self-esteem and you can be can be called the ugliest duckling and have an esteem big enough to be the president of this country.
To ascertain your esteem status, ask yourself the following questions;
Do you feel inadequate when people don’t complement you?
Do you spend so many hours checking out yourself daily?
Do you feel sad or bad when someone doesn’t seem to like something about me?
As a handsome guy do you need to sleep with several women to feel on top of the world?
As a pretty girl does the fact that you have many men and boys throng over you makes you feel beautiful?
If your answer is ‘yes’ to three out of these questions then you are battling with one form of low self-esteem or the other. Your self-esteem should not be tied to how you look or how you don’t look, what people say or what they don’t say about you, or to the fact that you are ugly or pretty but what you do whether with being pretty or the other way round.
To overcome your low self-esteem you have to change your orientation about yourself. Life does not give credit to people just because they look handsome or ugly (except you are contesting for Miss World or Mr. Nigeria, and even if you are they still get to test you intelligent quotient), life gives credit to men and women who made life better for other people. How many lives has benefited from the fact that you look good? How many lives has benefited from your so called ugly looks? The truth is there is truly no fine or ugly person in the world, we only have men and women who have accepted that as their reality.
If you don’t look good, then do something that’ll make even the most handsome bow at your feet, and then you can inspire other people with this quote, ‘It doesn’t matter if they call you pig or duck, it doesn’t matter if your face is synonymous with being ugly, what matters is for you to live your dreams and those who insulted you will eventually celebrate you’.
If you have been called handsome or pretty, why take it the hard way over something you can turn to an opportunity. Start a worthy cause and ask every single person who throng around you to support the cause, they will because they like you and you will not only live to be called the handsome or pretty one but the awesome one.
As long as your happiness or unhappiness is tied to your looks then you need to check yourself into the ‘High esteem’ academy. You will agree with me that Nigeria’s immediate past two former presidents were far from handsome, Mother Teresa’s picture I saw wasn’t pretty (I could be wrong please correct me), one of Nigeria’s wealthiest comedian ‘I go dye’ is something you don’t want to call good looking, I have been privileged to have friends (female) who are not close to pretty but some pretty girls in my life don’t worth half of what they worth to me. If you cannot turn your advantage or disadvantage into an opportunity you are not yet on your way to becoming happy and successful!
I am Gabriel Olatunji-Legend and you can follow me on twitter: @OLATUNJISPEAKS. I am an Entrepreneur and I Speak.
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