PART 2: How I Fell In Love With Another Man’s Fiancée

Gabriel Olatunji Legend

“I really enjoyed this, where is Part 2?” That was one of the numerous reactions and responses gotten from the last #MondayInspiration titled “How I Fell In Love With Another Man’s Fiancée”. So, just as you’ve all asked, what happened next? Read Part 1 here if you missed it - ow.ly/nUWkE 

I vividly recall gisting with a friend of mine (Olatoye of Trail Resource company – they help buy, package and deliver gifts to loved ones) by the road side on a Sunday morning. Do I confess I was actually engaging in a free love consulting for Toye; helping him nab a beautiful girl he has been eyeing since ‘forever,’ without the guts to make a move. I preached all the sermon in the world to convince this guy to write a short note, packaged with a gift, to this beautiful girl, since that is what he does for a living.



Thankfully he eventually did, and we were by the roadside gisting on the outcome of our plan when I suddenly saw this dashing, gorgeous, slim, sleek, not dark, not fair but highly enchanting young woman walking towards us. She had on a sunshade like the type Odunayo (my friend) wore to the Leadership conference I invited her for; to say she was absolutely pretty would be an understatement! At first I didn’t know who it was due to the sunshade but as she moved closer and removed the shades, lo and behold it was the same woman my eyes followed everywhere five years ago at the leadership training. I didn’t waste time in telling her how gorgeous she looked. She blushed moderately and moved on; leaving me aww-struck!



Yes, she moved on! What were you expecting? That I ask for her number or BB pin? I wasn’t planning it neither did I expect it. It just happened but there is something I can tell you about that day. It is that I fell in love with her right there and then. Maybe its not love but I felt something extra-ordinary and unusual. Some people say it is spiritual but all I know is she struck me like ‘this is my wife,’ and such has never happened to me like this before. Those who are familiar with me are aware of the fact that I am not moved by beautiful women, only beautiful minds move me. I usually fall in love with people depending on the quality of my first or second conversation with them, but in this case I already feel something deeper than normal when I had not even had a proper conversation with her. What is this, how do I define it? What do I do to this strong feeling? I knew I badly need to have a conversation with this woman. I need to know who she is; who she intends to be and most importantly I need to know her relationship status.



Now, I also need you to know that the lady I’m talking about happens to be one of the members of my densely populated 20,000 worshipper church, so you can agree we wouldn’t get to see every Sunday. She also happens to be a choir member of the same church, and the membership of my church choir alone is as good as the entire church membership of another church (I mean they are large and trying to see one of them every week is an herculean task that only the fittest can survive). Fortunately, I’ve got one or two other friends in the choir and that marked the genesis of my search for this woman who has won my heart in the space of days. I put a call through to a lady I know in the choir but she didn’t have a clue, so I spoke with another guy in the same choir he confirms he knows her! Immediately, I arranged for a meeting with him and asked him about her. I asked if she was dating and what kind of person she is. Let me quote him, “She’s single! If you are really serious you can have her”. Wow!

Having heard such affirming statement, I couldn’t sleep as I practically thought about her all through the week. I didn’t only think about her, I also fasted and prayed not because I was desperately in need of a woman but because I am not ready for another ‘play play’ relationship. My disposition was if it won’t end up in marriage let me not have it.



The following week I was in church with a serious mission to find her and possibly get her number (don’t forget I’m the shy type who wouldn’t request the number of an ‘unfamiliar’ face). I scanned through my church auditorium with my leg and my eyes, placed one or two guys at a strategic location in case they sight her, while I sat by the main gate of my church through which everyone exits the church. And guess what?! After a while, she comes out sizzling in a short and simple blue gown, chatting with friends. She later left them to chat with some others till she got outside the gate.



At this point, I had no idea how best to approach her. I looked the other way like she wasn’t the one I had been waiting for. What a foolish thing to do? But do not blame me because this is something I have never done before in my entire life – I have never even met a girl in the bus or at events and be the first to talk to her before. I walked out of church and saw her at the ATM stand by the church but still couldn’t walk up to her because she was with friends. If shyness was a being, I would have shot it that day. I walked past the ATM and stood afar to ascertain her movement. Another female friend asked me to walk her to the other side of the road and I agreed with the hope of running into this lady who has since left the ATM. On my way back with my friend a miracle happened, she was walking towards us alone and I crossed to the other side where she was with the help of my friend who crossed ahead of me. And voila, I met her and innocently inquired what she was still doing around since service was over. Obviously, she needed to use the ATM but the machines were not dispensing. She was to check the next ATM and I asked if I could get her number should in case the next ATM did not work, I may be of financial help to her so she won’t be stranded. She agreed and that was how I conquered the first hurdle of getting her phone number.

(Watch out for the final part)



Gabriel Olatunji Legend is an entrepreneur and a solution strategist. I am open to further discussions on my twitter handle @OLATUNJISPEAKS