Where are the women with whom you can have intellectual conversation? And they say they are wife materials; what I see are baby manufacturers. Where are the men with a sense of urgency, commitment and responsibility? And they say they are eligible; their eligibility can only be found in ‘bedmatics’ and sperm donation.
This is not to insult anyone but to propel every man and woman to grow beyond their present level into indispensable personalities. Why do we have women that cannot hold a conversation that is devoid of trivial things? Some ladies don’t even know the name of the Governor of the state they reside in and you expect a man to be proud of you; I am aware that not all women fancy political information and activities but men also do not fancy women with vain knowledge of their environment and country; no man wants to marry a dumb; no man wants to marry a woman who is asked in public about Michael Jordan and she goes, ‘Is he from Ghana?’. The intellectual woman does not have to be a book-worm; she only needs to read daily headlines of news to be in the know of things in her country and around the world. These days information is cheap as it can be found free of charge all over the blogs and internet; only a ‘cheaper’ woman still fail to access it.
I am a man! So permit me to be a little bias; if you do not want to be treated as a trophy or a thing become a person of value to your man – contribute to his conversations – research (Google) on some projects that the man is involved in and give him suggestions based on your findings. Even if he knew the suggestions you gave to him, he would see you as intelligent and an indispensable treasure. It is a failure on your part if your man finds it comfortable discussing business with another woman more than he does with you. Men find women who have an opinion sexy and intelligent – join the league.
Are men excluded from this conversation? Ofcourse they are NOT. Women are not things; they are not trophies that you place on a cabinet for showoff to friends and foes; they have blood running through their veins and they have feelings too – only an irresponsible man fails to pay attention to the feelings of his woman. Irresponsibility is not an insult but a state of the mind at a particular time. How can you love a woman and yet not be committed to her – love is not just a four letter word but commitment personified.
Are you the type of man your woman should be proud of in public? She’s only not telling you so that she doesn’t appear disrespectful – you disgrace her regularly in public with everything that you do; the way you eat, your remarks, your dress sense, your stinginess, your lack of gentleman demeanor and your obvious lack of respect for her which is obvious in your decision making process.
Are you even aware that there is a reason why women act the way they do and same goes for men; if you are as knowledgeable as you claim you would have gone in search of ‘The Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman and ‘Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus’ by John Gray – these are books that will make you the man to beat and will catapult you to the club of ‘Indispensable’ men to their women.
A friend of mine once broke-up with a babe because he believes she’s not bringing anything to the table. Relationship is like a business deal, each partner brings something to the table for trading. As a woman, ask yourself, what am I bringing to the table? As a man, ask yourself, is what am bringing to the table enough for her?
If you are in a relationship or you are about to enter a relationship, now will be a good time to write out what you are bringing to the table. Share your thoughts in the comment section below.
Gabriel Olatunji ‘Legend’ tweets from @OLATUNJISPEAKS
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