Many times , we always desire to look at other people for our source of inspiration, our source of motivation , there is sense in it but it doesn't always have to be so. We could all try being our own motivation, we don't always strife for our own success, our own goal but keep lamenting on the unfairness of life.
Definitely, no man is an island and a man who asks doesn't get lost but when you ask "way" too much you position yourself to the world as a confused person. Recently I found myself watching a program "My 600 pound life" and I changed was like "wow! That big?" And the funny thing is that the friends of the lady in question were all telling her to loose weight and watch what she ate blah blah and nothing happened.
Everything changed when she started having pains in her bones and she told herself "I don't want to die", "I don't want to leave my daughter and husband"; not until she told herself her own truth, she looked Inside, tapped from her internal strength and declared "I must loose this fat"; until she motivated herself, she made resolution to fight fat. Most times we keep having the same mistakes, it isn't because no one is advising us but because we aren't ready to change, we are not ready to make a difference, life indeed is a beautiful teacher, the people around you are spectators, you are the only actor in your game, when you begin to motivate yourself to do certain things, you will feel that change in your relationship, your business, your work and everything around you.
That is why the most beautiful thing you can do for yourself is believe in your strength, know your limits, don't push against your reach just because someone out there is telling what you can and can't do, look inside yourself and feel your capacity. It is never going to be easy, all you have to do is be your motivation and soar high, it is in me it is in you.
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Monday, June 9, 2014
#MondayInspiration: Most of us are fraudsters; here's the proof!
When I was younger, I and my brother would plant maize at our backyard and we will visit the spot everyday to water what we planted and in a matter of days we start to see the result of the plantation come out. The maize sprung out from the soil and in a few weeks we went back to the same spot to harvest our maize – we would harvest our maize, take them home and cook. Around this same time, someone bought me a pear and after eating the pear I saw a big pear seed inside of it, I decided to plant the seed the same way I and my brother planted the maize. I left for the back of the house and planted the big round seed; I went there day after days, weeks after weeks; I watered my seed but I never saw it grow; I grew tired and decided to see why my seed wasn’t growing, I didn’t know that in doing that I would be killing my seed. It was until much later I realized that the harvest time for maize and pear are not the same – while you could see the result of maize in a few weeks, you could only see the result of a pear in a few years.
If we never planted maize we would never have had maize to cook several weeks after. This is a principle in life; the seed you don’t plant you will never get the harvest. Many of us want something while we are doing nothing to warrant the things we want – that is what I call ‘Life fraud’. To expect to get money when you have not worked for it or investeded for it is fraud. It is not only ‘Yahoo Yahoo’ boys that are involved in fraud but anyone who expects to get something for nothing. You can have whatever it is that you desire but not on a platter of gold; you must earn it. Whatever you get without earning you get by being dubious. Some Christians will come and preach Favour and Grace to me now but while I believe in the spiritual concept of Favour and Grace I am aware that these two works for you when God has seen your heart and you made a move. If you don’t plant maize don’t expect to reap or cook it.
It is important to know that some of us will plant maize while some will plant pears; the harvest times for the two of them are not the same. You may harvest your maize in a few weeks but you will only see results in your pear several months after. There is something called times and seasons. You must observe this law, while the earth remain, seedtime and harvest time will never cease. Sometimes in life, we get quick results from our investments in life and at other times, we get late results from some other investments, we must realize that the harvest season for every investment we make in life are not the same.
Let us bring it home. In life, seeds that you can plant are in different form. Putting money in the stock market, fixed deposit, and buying real estate are forms of seed. You are likely to reap the harvest in a few months or years. Some years ago, I was broke and in need of financial help but I got none; I was quick to realize that 'nothing goes for nothing'. I walked up to the CEO of a print agency and asked to come work for him for free while he teaches me the art of printing and publishing; he agreed. Its several years after, I don't have to beg for financial assistance anymore because my time with his company was a seed I planted, and the money I get now from people offering me printing jobs is the harvest.
Most of us are fraudsters; here's the proof. Don't ever forget that it is a high level of fraud you are committing if all you do is wait for things to happen to you without you working, earning or deserving them.
Follow Gabriel Olatunji on Twitter, @OLATUNJISPEAKS or send him a mail, olatunjispeaks@gmail.com
If we never planted maize we would never have had maize to cook several weeks after. This is a principle in life; the seed you don’t plant you will never get the harvest. Many of us want something while we are doing nothing to warrant the things we want – that is what I call ‘Life fraud’. To expect to get money when you have not worked for it or investeded for it is fraud. It is not only ‘Yahoo Yahoo’ boys that are involved in fraud but anyone who expects to get something for nothing. You can have whatever it is that you desire but not on a platter of gold; you must earn it. Whatever you get without earning you get by being dubious. Some Christians will come and preach Favour and Grace to me now but while I believe in the spiritual concept of Favour and Grace I am aware that these two works for you when God has seen your heart and you made a move. If you don’t plant maize don’t expect to reap or cook it.
It is important to know that some of us will plant maize while some will plant pears; the harvest times for the two of them are not the same. You may harvest your maize in a few weeks but you will only see results in your pear several months after. There is something called times and seasons. You must observe this law, while the earth remain, seedtime and harvest time will never cease. Sometimes in life, we get quick results from our investments in life and at other times, we get late results from some other investments, we must realize that the harvest season for every investment we make in life are not the same.
Let us bring it home. In life, seeds that you can plant are in different form. Putting money in the stock market, fixed deposit, and buying real estate are forms of seed. You are likely to reap the harvest in a few months or years. Some years ago, I was broke and in need of financial help but I got none; I was quick to realize that 'nothing goes for nothing'. I walked up to the CEO of a print agency and asked to come work for him for free while he teaches me the art of printing and publishing; he agreed. Its several years after, I don't have to beg for financial assistance anymore because my time with his company was a seed I planted, and the money I get now from people offering me printing jobs is the harvest.
Most of us are fraudsters; here's the proof. Don't ever forget that it is a high level of fraud you are committing if all you do is wait for things to happen to you without you working, earning or deserving them.
Follow Gabriel Olatunji on Twitter, @OLATUNJISPEAKS or send him a mail, olatunjispeaks@gmail.com
Monday, June 2, 2014
#MondayInspiration: How a pen and paper can save your relationship,even your life!
Let me tell you what happens in the counseling room, especially when it pertains to therapy. The therapist is seen with a pen and a book while the patient is doing most of the talking; the therapist takes note from the things the patient is saying and at the end of the day the therapist analyses the patient’s situation and prescribes a solution to the patient’s problem using the same pen and book. Most of the problems of our lives can be solved with pen and paper!
I believe that with pen and paper, you can solve your financial problems. How? Write down what you have; what you need to have; calculate how much you need to make weekly or daily for it to happen; list things you can do to generate that type of cash weekly or daily; list names of people that can support you financially, employ you or patronize you; list all possible scenarios where the money can come from. When you are done with that and you look at that paper you will discover that the problem has either been solved or half solved.
I solved the problem of who to marry with pen and paper a long time ago. I had it penned down on paper, in details what my wife would look like; it wasn’t about her looks but her habits, character, skills, faith, beliefs and self esteem – by the time I was done with it I realized most of the women around me which I was confused about weren’t going to be my wife and whenever I was getting close to a lady, I looked at that paper I wrote many years ago and if I cannot match her with the content of that paper, I knew we weren’t going to work.
The problem most of us have is that we are too lazy to write – the solution is too simple; which is why we fail to do it. This is why the problem persists. We want a complicated solution, something so far to reach and exhilarating. Big problems sometimes have simple solutions and until you have tried the simplest solution of all (pen and paper), stop saying you have a problem. Some problems are huge, and using pen and paper doesn’t mean the problem will go away but it means you can get to the root of the problem and offer solutions to them on paper; which can then be implemented in stages.
Statistics have proven that most businesses that fail within the first five years do not have a written business plan. They failed because they didn’t take time to solve their problems on paper first. They got carried away with the beautiful idea and started with enthusiasm but enthusiasm can wane off and plans on paper will always remain. This is the same with failed relationships. You cannot run a relationship successfully without a relationship plan – if you fail to plan, you have planned to fail. In every kingdom there are qualities they look for in people who can attain the Kingship position and no matter how handsome you are, if you lack those basic qualities, you can never be made king. Your life is your own kingdom. You must have your own values and qualities which you cannot negotiate in the life of your ‘executive officers’ especially ‘Executive officer Wife/Husband’. These values and qualities must be written on paper long before you meet these type of people as it makes them recognizable when you see them.
Dr. David Oyedepo said that ‘God gave you brain so you can let Him rest’. We must use our brains; explore all possibilities on paper before assuming that we have a problem. A problem is not yet a problem until it cannot be solved on paper.
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