Thursday, February 13, 2014

10 reasons why you must attend "OLOLUFEMI" on Sunday



This conversation ensued between a couple;

Babe: You are the worst man any woman can have; I regret the day that I said ‘Yes’ to your proposal. I am tired of you and this is the end of this relationship. (packs bag/loads and leaving).

Bobo: I forgot to mention that I bought us a ticket to ‘Ololufemi’ valentine’s dinner.

Babe: (Turns back with a blush) I have always said it that, ‘You are the best thing that can happen to a any woman’.



10 REASONS WHY YOU MUST ATTEND ‘OLOLUFEMI’

1. 3 Course meal for you and your babe; it doesn’t happen every day.

2. Kiss your spouse, not literally (asewo people) – come and find out

3. Show yourself on the dance floor; time to stop boring yourself

4. Set your friendship on fire with your partner! How? Come first na

5. You have to wait a whole year before the next edition – don’t carry last.

6. When was the last time you deliberately and romantically fed yourself?

7. Rib Cracking Jokes – you don’t hear this jokes everywhere

8. Learn from married couples who have been married for 35 years

9. Learn from married couples who have been married for few years

10. A mixture of the old school and new school music – simply classic!

This dinner is for true lovers who intends taking it to the altar. Happening on Sunday, Feb 16 at the LTV Studios and a meagre N5000 will admit both you and your lover. If you are looking for an experience this valentine season then 'Ololufemi' is where you have to be.



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I’m pretty! And so what? It is proof that your wisdom pipe is blocked -Gabriel Olatunji 'Legend'

If I or anyone else have to tell you that you are beautiful before you believe you are; it is a proof that your wisdom pipe is blocked and your self esteem needs adjustment.

If I strike the wrong chord in you with this piece, I am unapologetic about it. It is high time someone sat you down and lashed you with these words. You have been pampered too much with words, you have been tolerated when you should be told ‘that is crap’. You cannot continue to need me or someone else to endorse your looks or what you do before you believe that you are not the worst person in the world.

I find it annoying when I see young people check themselves out over and over again. I can still let this slide because some people are born perfectionists and they usually want to make sure nothing is short of perfection in their looks but I can’t stand the man who needs my approval when it comes to the way he looks or what to do before believing. Your life is your life; your body is designed for only you and you are unique in your own way, even though I know you still find that hard to believe – it’s still unbelievable to you because the low self esteem that is still blocking your wisdom pipe has not yet given way. No matter how ‘not-so-fine’ a person can be, it does not determine his or her worth in life; there are many pretty girls I dare not think of marrying. Have you not seen men who sleep with the prettiest girls but end up marrying women not as pretty as the ones they sleep with for fun? It is because as much as looks can make a woman attractive (sexually), it does not guarantee a sustainable friendship – you are only good for sex if all you have is your ‘fine’ looks.

What defines you is more than your body! It is your competence in your field – can you compete favorably with the best in your league and win even if the person looks better than you? Can you do a better job than the next person even if the person is Miss World (as long as it’s not a beauty contest)? Can you or are you living a life of sound character and worthy of emulation? These are basic values that keep the world attracted to you.

If you are beautiful and stupid and you have the privilege of meeting the President he will most likely sleep with you and offer you money rather than give you a job where you need to serve people – because he knows that you only look good; you are deficient of wisdom. Wisdom is not cheap and it is not scarce; if you desire it, you can get it by consciously embracing values like;

Excellence – doing your work in an outstanding way; in a way the world will ask for your help and not for your 'cookies'.

Responsibility – if you cannot take responsibility for people other than yourself, you are still a child.

Giving – the world is in dare need of people who have something to give; I’m not talking money. If you have something to give your world you are one of the most beautiful creatures ever. What do you have to give?

Compassion – the secret of every great man I know is rooted in compassion; love for people. The day you develop the capacity to love people and make life better for  them in your own field is the day you find true beauty. Look through history and name anyone whom you term as great – compassion is usually at the heart of what they did.

One other one I will love to add is Knowledge – A man that finds it has found beauty because the world will always have ignorant men and that makes someone the world cannot do without when it comes to solving their ignorant problem. This is what true beauty should be all about and not your looks. It is not bad to look good, it is an added advantage if your brain looks good as well.



Gabriel Olatunji 'Legend' is the founder of www.OLATUNJISPEAKS.com - Africa's number one inspirational blog. The creator of 'Ololufemi' - the valentine's dinner for true lovers. He's at the verge of publishing his first inspirational story book! Follow him on Twitter @OLATUNJISPEAKS[badge style="blue"][/badge][badge style="red"][/badge]

EPIPHANY: No past is worth the surprises the future has to offer!

It has become a well-known fact that one cannot determine what events happen to them, but everyone has a choice on how to react in each circumstance. However, most people do not realize how important our reactions to “life” affect our dispositions and the course we eventually take in the future.

Everything seems pretty fantastic when things go in our favor, those times when even the gods are not to be remembered so to say, in reverse when things get topsy-turvy, then we look at life in such a bleak way which ultimately destabilizes us. In scenarios whereby a job is lost, a loved one gone, an opportunity missed, learning that one is terminally ill and fated to die in a given period. These not so welcome developments do not have to define what our future should be, it doesn’t have to clip our wings and narrow our choices so much that the experiences in our past largely defines our future.

Whoever concluded that the past is a determining factor as to what the future holds, or what proof is there that the past has a monumental role to play in the future that is yet shrouded in mystery? Do not hold on to the past such that your present and future becomes a shadow of what once was. No past is worth the surprises the future has to offer. I do not believe in once in a lifetime opportunity as is generally acclaimed, every single day is an opportunity to live, do and aspire to greater things. The mere fact that we are still living means there is something that needs to be done. The only thing that determines the future is the present. What we do today, the dreams we dream today, the achievements we set out to accomplish holds tomorrow, a now spent reminiscing about the past is a future already fated for mediocrity.

Living in the past is like holding on to a part puzzle and thinking it makes all the sense. I remember watching a very interesting movie and a character made the following statement which I want us to deeply reflect on “I spent the whole of my life waiting for the defining moment, what I did not realize was that every moment is the defining moment.



Written by: Olaide Banjoko.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Stop blaming your president for your problem, he really can't help thesituation! - Godwin Uwubamen



2019, 2023 is also an election year in Nigeria, what's the fuss about 2015? What does it take to Rule or Lead a nation WELL, EFFICIENTLY, EFFECTIVELY, PRODUCTIVELY? What it takes to lead a family of four well. What ever you do in your little space today really will not be different from what you will do tomorrow in the Grand Arena. The only difference will be in the amount of resources available to you then.

A nation deserve the kind of leader it gets, because the leader was trained and nurtured by the SYSTEM of the nation. Stop blaming your president for your problem, he really can't help the situation or himself, its about programming, he is just playing out the script that we ALL have written out for him, he is just "fortunate" or "unfortunate" to be the ONE there to ACT out our collective script, even if YOU reading this piece, find your self as our representative LEADER, I can bet you that you will most likely play it out the same way we have written it. Our problem is not knowing what to do but the courage to DO what we know. I like the passion of the NEW party, just watching and observing their dealings in the last couple of weeks am tempted to be a part of them, ha! Ha!! I can't be fooled again, trust me they are not and don't have the capacity to be better than the incumbent and as I said earlier its not their fault, their intention may be right but I know that their execution will be wrong, why?? They are still part of us, I mean the SYSTEM.

So you may ask me who then is qualified to lead us? Personally am not sure of the answer but one thing I know is, if the over 160 million of us choose to change what we VALUE, anyone of us eligible can Lead this nation PRODUCTIVELY, trust me its not rocket science. Some of the values you and I must start to introduce into our Nations System so as to change our OUTPUT in the future are:

1. Value for Human live, ( no country can be productive beyond its value for its citizens welfare and well being)
2. The true concept of wealth ( emphasis should be more on knowledge and not natural resources),
3. Obeying the Rule of Law ( where no one is above the Law, living by agreed policies and constitution; no sacred cows),
4. Value for hard work ( performing given duties with dignity and excellence),
5. Value for Education( this modern world is built on knowledge )
6. Delayed gratification ( we should stop eating our future today)
7. Strategic Thinking ( people who use their Heads will forever be masters to people who use their Hands)
Just to mention a few.

Now let me talk to the youths, am sure you will agree with me that the system that produced our current leaders; 20, 30years ago, though not perfect was better than this current system that's producing you for our leadership in 10, 20 years time. If nothing changes fundamentally now in the way our thinking and values are heading presently, am not a prophet, but I am sure of what 2030 will look like (disaster). You know what?....
Lets begin to train ourselves through personal , character, and competence development.
Lets promote more and more constructive and empowering discuss on different communication mediums, this will help a mind revolution that will lead to true Freedom.
Lets challenge ourselves to higher standards of work ethics and mental productivity.
Lets pursue as much as possible moral excellence.
And finally lets find a strategic (long term)plan to position that young person(s) who will represent these new NIGERIAN Value, we want to see. Can I be honest with you, Forget 2015, maybe 2019 too but I have a feeling that 2023 will begin a NEW ERA in Nigeria.

My thought, i don't know how it will happen or when but I believe the people am referring to now are between ( 21 and 35 years), you guys are far more intelligent, strategic and thoughtful with the added advantage of your Dreams, visions , technology and I.T savvy, you stand a better chance in making this nation what we all crave for.
Think! Think!! Think!!!, there is hope for us in Nigeria as we agree today to take our destiny into our own hands. I will share more in the future. ?#?love4myNATION?.
Pastor Godwin Uwubamen is the president of DYSCOVERYOU INT'L. He is also the senior pastor of His Treasure House Abuja. He has been a voice of change to this generation for over a decade. The author of several books and he's married to Oluwaseun. Follow: @

Monday, February 10, 2014

I have confirmed it – the beautiful ones are not yet born - GabrielOlatunji 'Legend'

Gabriel Olatunji 'Legend'

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I have not been writing for a while now because I have been busy with the planning of ‘Ololufemi’ valentine’s dinner (the dinner for lovers who truly love themselves and intends taking it to the altar); it’s happening on Sunday, Feb 16 at LTV Studios. That’s not why I am writing this piece but to share with you a new discovery I made, it is true that the beautiful ones are not yet born…. But if you wait for the beautiful ones you will die a single person.

I started a training a week ago and in the course of the training I have seen some of the most beautiful women and some of the not-so-beautiful ones too and this made me realize that I have truly not seen them all like I always claim. I digressed as this isn’t actually the point I’m trying to make; even if you got married to Agbani Darego, there will always be another woman that is finer and will make Agbani Darego look like thrash to you – this is why you shouldn’t marry for the looks alone.

Look around you, you will notice many young men and women who are doing ‘fine’ (they are comfortable) but several years ago when they didn’t have anything, the dreams they shared were bigger than what they are currently; they had visions of ruling their world but after having a taste of comfort, after leaving the realm of struggle and survival, they forgot their initial vision and dreams for life – they simply got stuck at that point. This got me thinking during the week and I felt challenged to tell you that no matter how comfortable you are, there is still a higher level of comfort. No matter how beautiful what you earn now is there is a more beautiful income to be earned. No matter how qualified you think you are there is still a higher level of qualification you can get - Don’t live your life as though you have seen the end of it; there’s more you can be that you have not yet become.

Take a deep breath, look back at your life and recount the big dreams you once shared with someone or yourself; if possible write them all down and analyze them one after the other – check to see if you are close to the big dream – if you are not, that is a signal that although your life is beautiful but a more beautiful life is yet to be born. You are the only one that can give birth to this beautiful life you once dreamt of. Friends, it is time to dust your mind and challenge yourself to go after the dreams you have left unattended to – tell yourself that you are more than this and there is so much more you can still achieve – Go for it!

I got you with that title and introduction, right? I didn’t mean the beautiful girls are not yet born, I meant the beautiful life you can have is not here yet – so, give birth to it!

Let me know what you think below in the comment section.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

PrincessTalks: My dad's first words to me 'you are always angry' hit melike a heavy slap

Many people have trouble managing their anger. I, for example truly do not know how to control my anger or what gets me angry. Recently, I got into a heated argument with my younger brother and it was turning into a huge fierce battle with voices being raised and words hurled at each other and my dad came in to intervened. His first words, ' you are always angry' hit me like a heavy slap on my cheeks and for that moment I felt several emotions playing within my very emotional heart. I felt hurt, insulted, judged that I began to sob, very bitter. I tried reflecting on the cause of the argument only to realize it was something so minimal that a little patience would definitely handle.

Most times, we do things we don't even notice but are usually problems for people around us. In my case, guess it is worse because I rarely express my anger but bury it and act upon it later on. It is way better to express what you feel at  that particular moment and move on like nothing happened, being mindful in expressing them in safe ways.

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Most times, people suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder due to anger (happens to me). Anger is totally unsafe and can cause lots of problem in your relationship with family and friends. it also leads to violence, with the extra adrenaline pumping, large surge of energy making you react in ways you normally wouldn't. Letting your anger turn to violence makes it even more important for you to maintain and get help with your feelings.

I got this little piece of advice from my aunt and I would love to share. She said that In managing your anger; start by recognizing what triggers the emotion, think about the last time you were angry, what your reaction was before you got angry, when you were angry and after you got calm, also try recognizing the signs of anger - clenching of fists and feet, tapping, tense muscles, etc. Try the calm techniques, think of anything to make you calm and in control. Breath in and out, learn to be assertive and make people able to reach out to you and not you in anger. If none is working, then try going for a long walk, make sure you leave the area of your anger, enjoy the feel of nature and appreciate the work of divine grace around you. Above all always pray that God gives you the strength to keep that slow killer at bay. It actually took my dad to point me back to track.



Written by Obi  Adayaeze Princess – Follow her on Twitter, @adayaeze | You can send a mail to olatunjispeaks@gmail.com for enquiries.

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Cure for failure!!!

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Why is it that some people will watch helplessly as their lives fall apart when, within their easy reach, is information that can make all the difference in their lives?

This was the thought that occupied my mind in the closing days of last year. I'm sure you will be glad to know that I found the answer. But before I share with you my exciting discovery, let me first tell you what led me into thinking about the subject.

After we held the last Business Leadership Forum in 2001, the monthly mentoring programme that I host every third Saturday of the month, I was consumed with the desire to see more members of SuccessDigest Leaders' Club start to write their own million naira cheques.

But how can this dream be realized? This question was directed to my Father in heaven. I seek His guidance in matters like this. A couple of days afterwards, the answer came: “Go and teach them how to use information”. “Use information?” "Yes," was the firm reply. For, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge," (Hosea 4:6).

If you are a regular reader of Success Digest, you of course know that you get a truckload of quality information every month. Which means that having information is not enough.  You must apply (use) it If you want it to work for you. And in applying it, you must do so correctly.

Is there a big difference between applying Knowledge (Information) and getting Information? Yes, there is. I can use my own life as an example. Let me go as far back as 1974 to show how using (not just knowing about) information can dramatically change a life that’s headed nowhere to a meaningful life.

First, I encountered the word of God that says I should stop worrying about tomorrow. That word came to me at a time when I used to fret about where my family’s next meal would come from. That was in 1974. Just trusting God’s word eliminated that problem from my life for good. Since 1974 till date, my family has never had cause to worry about tomorrow. God has faithfully provided for ALL our needs.

Second, in 1975, I read a pamphlet by Herbert W. Armstrong titled, Seven Laws of Success. The booklet spoke about setting goals, getting the right education, persevering, etc. Without hesitation, I began to apply the information to my life. In less than two years, I'd earned two passes in GCE, finished a correspondence course in Journalism and started filing sports stories for newspapers - two giant leaps in my life that was previously headed nowhere!

Third, I came across Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill in December 1983. By January 1984, after I'd read the book, an idea to become a sporting title publisher had formed in my mind. By November 3 of the same year, with N6,500 as my startup capital, I started the publishing business. Despite all the odds, I've been in the same business continuously for the past 18 years.

Fourth, early in 1995, while researching the contents of Success Digest magazine, I found a book by James and Wayne Gonyea on Internet, titled: Selling On The Internet. It was the first time ever that I would hear the word "Internet." I decided to apply the information in the book. Today, Internet provides me one of my income streams.

As you can see, learning to use the information that you have every reason to believe would change your life, is a vital key to success in life. But this fact is known to almost everyone in search of success in our land today, So why is it that, in spite of their exposure to this truth, many are still finding it difficult to change their lives? What is it that is holding them back?

I've given this subject a deep thought. And the only culprit that I can find is the strong desire to want to change our situation instantly, almost over-night. Let me explain. Let us assume that for three years you were out of job. Before you lost your job, you had plans to get married, move into a new flat and buy a car. Then, without warning, your employer fired you.

And so began an agonizing search for another job. None was forthcoming. Things began to deteriorate fast. You couldn't buy a new dress. Feeding even became a problem. You had to endure this humiliation for three years before another job turned up.

On your first week back in work, you take stock of your life. What you see is not so good.

Your fiancĂ©e had gone with another man. She had told you she couldn't wait. You have a debt burden hanging over your head that would take two years to write off on your current salary. Instead of a new flat, you have moved from a two-room apartment into a single room. And there is no hope for a car. I mean, you couldn’t even afford a tyre not to talk of a car. Suddenly the joy that filled your heart when you got a new job disappears. What could bring you happiness is if you could lay your hands on a magic wand that could restore all what you were supposed to have acquired in the last three years in one fell swoop.

As you continue to think along this line, you lose interest in your job. Instead of thanking God for the opportunity to build back, you start to look for that job, that contract, that connection, that magic wand that will change your situation over-night.

In the process, you lose the new job, get back on the dole queue, and dig deeper and deeper into the quicksand of poverty. If you’re lucky, you realize your mistake and make a 'U' turn. If you are unlucky you become disgruntled about life constantly looking for someone to blame for your lack of success.

The new job here represents new information you come across that teaches you how to get to where you've been planning to be. When you receive the information, you get so excited. "Eureka!”, you scream excitedly. “This is it!!” Then you start to apply the strategy. Along the way, you discover that it will take you time before you get to where you want to be. “Eh this wasn't the quick fix I wanted", you say to yourself in frustration. And you jettison the Idea, going back to square one.

Listen to me, friend. If you’ve been making this mistake, you are going for self destruction! Let this article serve as a red light to you. Turn back!! The only way you can be where you thought you ought to be over-night is by going against the law. You can’t change God’s law about sowing and reaping. There must of necessity be a gap between when you plant a seed and when you harvest the seed's increase. Stick to your game plan. If you don’t have one, go back and read my column in the January edition. It will give you total victory over this dangerous disease. For, indeed, it is a madness that you must cure by all means.



Sunny Obazu-Ojeagbase is the Chairman of SADC, Publishers of SuccessDigest. He is also the founder of Complete Communication Limited, publishers of Complete Sports.