#GYG Day 2: Who is to be blamed for my woes? by Gabriel Olatunji-Legend

Welcome to #GYG (Give Your Greatness). It's the 2nd day of the 10 days series. My goal is to help you unleash your greatness (bring out the greatness in you).



I was born in what you can call a slum in Lagos. I am the last child from my family and whether I am successful or not it was up to me; many people have similar story. Nobody cares if you make it in life or not, it is your responsibility but if you do, good for them. The onus lies on you to be successful and great. You cannot blame anybody for failure and that was what I discovered early in life. My parents may be poor, may have given birth to me in the slum but if I still live in the slum today they are not to be blamed. I must admit that it'll be nice to have been born in places like VGC, Banana Island and probably be the son of Aliko Dangote but the reality is that I was not born anywhere close to those places and Aliko Dangote is not my father. The responsibility is on me. #GYG
Stop blaming your parent for your woes; they gave birth to you already and they won't be the first parent to be poor. Go and Work! Your parents are like your drivers into this world and from a certain age you lose the right to blame them for your problems. Once, my friends were gaining admission into higher institutions and I was home; I blamed my parents for my woes but that didn't solve the problem. It was the day I decided I was ready to go to school that I gained admission. It's all about YOU my friend. Blame No One! #GYG
You are the architect of your life; if you don't like the 'structurer' design tear it down and build again. It's no one's fault. When things are not working do not be quick to blame anybody, not even the devil. My Friend, take the blame first. We live in a culture that blames everyone else for our troubles except ourselves. Even our leaders blame each other. The hallmark of a Great leader and a great person is that they have learnt to take responsibility for failures. Until you are ready to blame yourself if things go wrong things will never go right. Things go wrong because there's someone else to blame. When you cannot blame your father, mother, girlfriend, or mentor for your failure except yourself, that's when you are ready to give your greatness. #GYG
David was the last child of Jesse and he had all the right in the world to blame Jesse for being just a Shepherd but he didn't. David is a character I love in the bible because aside from God helping him he orchestrated his greatness with his own hands. David would be correct to blame his father (why would he be the only one to go to the bush?) but instead he trained himself. Instead of blaming people for things that go wrong at your office ask yourself about the trainings you need to fix the wrongs. #GYG
In the bush David would compose songs, play instruments and fight animals instead of blaming someone – that was his training. The world is waiting for you to Give Your Greatness but those who still blame others for their troubles cannot have any of that. If I am poor it is my fault. If I am great it is my fault. If I fail it is my fault – this is the mentality of great people. I have come to let you know that your boss is not the reason you have not been promoted. Shift the blame to yourself! #GYG
I heard a man say his wife is the reason for his downfall but I said to him 'your wife was a fool for marrying you'. Any man who blames a woman for his financial troubles is no man at all and cannot be counted among the greats. King Solomon in ancient Israel had hundreds of wives and concubines and none of them ever complained of money. Man, blame yourself. If I can't feed my wife and children, I have no moral right to blame either of them for it; they didn't ask to be married or born. The first person to blame when you feel like blaming someone else is YOU. Things will change the day you cannot take the blame no more. #GYG
So who have you been blaming for your failures? That is not one of the strengths of people who gave the world their greatness. Wife, your husband may be the head of the family but stop blaming him (only) for the troubles at home; you had a choice before you choose him. Employee, your employer is not to blame for your inability to grow and add value to your organisation; you are to be blamed. Instead of blaming someone else blame yourself; then do something about it. Great men do what has to be done for desired result. #GYG
What will you do starting from today? You will get training, you will give no room for blame, and you will go after your dream. To give your greatness is to take responsibility for the good and the bad that happens to you. That's what great men are made of. I challenge you to give your greatness to the world, your country, your state, your local government, your street and family. Do not blame the government for the failings in your personal life; only mediocres who have no place in Great places do that. #GYG
Make a solemn promise today that you will Give Your Greatness to the world and you will never blame anybody for your failings. When there is no one to blame there will be no one (not even yourself) stopping you from attaining your place in greatness. #GYG
Finally, be happy like David, go after your dreams boldly like him and resist the urge to blame anyone but yourself. Give You Greatness #GYG





I am Gabriel Olatunji-Legend
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